Speaking with confidence

You can’t acquire confidence by reading about it. You become confident by doing. Before you succeed you may have to fail for a while. You need a safe place in which to practice and get constructive feedback.

It’s all very well to “say” step out of your comfort zone, but each one of us is unique. A big step for one person might be a small step for someone else. It all depends on where you’re coming from, your history, and your unique personality. If you’re just learning to swim, you wouldn’t want to enter yourself for an Olympic swimming event. If you go too far too soon you’ll become overwhelmed. At that point, you just give up. Continue reading “Speaking with confidence”

Perfectionism stops you from starting

Perfectionism will kill your writing. Perfectionists are quick to judge, and that can be a good thing under certain conditions. But not when writing the first draft. First drafts aren’t meant to be publishable. Writers must learn to tolerate half-baked ideas and ill-constructed sentences in the beginning. Writing is rewriting.

Perfectionists tend to have unrealistic expectations of themselves and other people. Yet mistakes are a necessary part of learning. We should be kind to ourselves because we all have to start somewhere. Think about how infants learn to walk. They don’t give up the first time they fall down. An infant doesn’t think, “This walking stuff is not for me. I’m no good at it. I’ll crawl through life.” Continue reading “Perfectionism stops you from starting”